The Five Love Languages are Garbage & Other Spicy Takes with Crystal Britt

In this episode, Meg and Lindsay chat with Crystal Britt, a licensed clinical social worker and actual therapist about the famed book, ‘The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts’ by pastor (NOT therapist) Gary Chapman. We talk about how the Five Love Languages are reductive, gendered, and heteronormative and how there are many better resources for communication in relationships. 

Christians especially love this read and recommend the Five Love Languages as if the Lord himself wrote this book. Why is that? Welp, we get into it with the lovely Crystal Britt throughout this episode. (Spoiler alert: it’s the misogyny.)Crystal Britt joins Lindsey and Meg to discuss the popular book 'The Five Love Languages' by Gary Chapman. They explore the background of the book and its influence in evangelical culture. They also discuss the misconceptions and harmful advice that can arise from the book's teachings. Crystal shares alternative resources and offers advice on shedding expectations and rebuilding relationships.

The conversation explores open and healthy communication in relationships, accepting and supporting different versions of your partner, questioning the purpose and benefits of partnership, revealing and accepting new aspects of yourself in a relationship, supportive partnerships and personal growth, exploring friendship and community as sources of intimacy, finding fulfillment outside of a relationship, recognizing divorce as a valid option, and building a supportive community.